Olivia Arden-Turner

2005 - 2005
LocationThornton
Age0
Cause of DeathStill Birth
Date of Birth17/12/2005
Date of Death17/12/2005
Visitors4,609 since 27/08/2009
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Olivia was born asleep on the 17th December 2005

I found out I was pregnant in the May and it was quiet a shock. We werenโ€™t planning for another baby as my 1st child Eleanor was only 8mths old but we were still over the moon.

On the whole my pregnancy went well everything was normal at the 12wk scan and my sickness seemed to clear around 15 weeks I went for the 20 week scan and again was told everything was fine.

Itโ€™s was around 28 weeks that the nightmare began something just didnโ€™t feel right & I was leaking a little bit of fluid so my midwife sent me to the hospital. I lay on the table and explained to the sonographer what the problem was. She started the scan and after a few minutes she told me all seemed well I thought great just me over reacting but just before she stopped her face changed and she asked me if all my earlier scans had been ok as she thought there was a problem with the growth of Oliviaโ€™s left leg. I was told to come back in a few days later and see a more senior sonographer.

I went back for a scan a few days later and was advise there was a problem but they thought I should start a course of steroid injects to help Oliviaโ€™s lungs as they would probably want to deliver her early. They also wanted me to be checked over by a hospital in Manchester. I started the injections and went home to await my appointment in Manchester. Over the next few days I came to accept that my little girl was not going to be perfect but who cared she was mine so what if one leg was a little shorter!

My partner and I attended the scan in Manchester about a week later they advised me Olivia had amniotic bands which were wrapped round her hip legs and her hands were fused together. They advised the condition should have been spotted in the early scans as termination is usually carried out between 12/15 weeks. They advised a termination would be the best option as they did not think she would survive and if she did she would have a very poor quality of life.

The hospital then sent us home and asked us to return the next morning I felt like my world was falling apart how could I make the decision to kill my baby girl who I had carried for almost 30 weeks. We went back the next day and again they advised the best thing would be a termination, they warned that the pressure of labour would probably make her fingers and possibly other limbs detach. It was one of the hardest decisions of our lives but we felt we had no choice we could not let our baby suffer any more. The hospital then injected my belly and my baby was gone. We were sent home and advised if I had not gone into labour in 48 hours to contact my local hospital.

I went into labour that night and I remember being scarred to death that I was going to give birth to my little girl and she was going to start falling apart. I was in labour for about 4 hours and Olivia was born at 3.15am the midwife asked if I wanted to hold her but at 1st I couldnโ€™t I just glanced at her from the corner of my eye as she lay on the bed beside me. It was then I realised she was beautiful just like her big sister. She had a small mop of dark hair and a tiny button nose. The midwife took her away to dress her and I got myself cleaned up.

When they brought her back to me I picked her up and it was then I realised her hands were not fused together, she had all her fingers no limbs had become detached !! She was almost perfect. I explained to the midwife that Olivia was not showing any of the signs I was told she would have. The midwife explained that there had only been 1 band around her and this was at the top of her left leg I sat with the midwife and undressed Olivia she was beautiful her left leg was slightly shorter and pulled in a bit but other than that everything looked fine. As her skin was so thin it started to peel so I stopped and re dressed my little angel and took her back to bed with me. I felt so guilty for not holding my angel straight after she was born but I was too scarred and to this day I still feel the same.

On the day of the funeral I had Olivia brought to our home a few hours before the service. She had a tiny white coffin, which was placed, on the middle of our bed and I spent these hours singing and cuddling my little angel showing her around our home. These are some of my most precious memories of her.

After her funeral I had to visit my grandad in the ICU unit of the hospital Olivia was born and whilst I was their my niece was born so I visited her in the delivery suite which even though was extremely hard I think if I hadnโ€™t I would have never been able to step into that delivery suite again.

I often wonder how they could have got her condition so wrong but I never had an x-ray of my angel so I will never know her exact condition.

My beautiful angel Olivia there is not a day goes by that I donโ€™t think of you when you left a piece of me went with you Iโ€™m so sorry I love you sweetheart. Eleanor. Alfie and me will keep singing to you and Jack my Angel babies have fun in heaven give Grandad and Uncle Tracy a kiss for me.

Until we meet again
Lots & Lots of Love Mummy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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THE BROKEN HEART FEELS PAIN

I have always thought that a Broken heart
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That the heart doesn’t truly break,
It’s just the words we speak.
And then my loved one went away,
Up to the Heaven’s to stay
I found that heartbreak was no lie,
My heart truly felt the pain!


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Edwina Dean

Saturday evening

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~♥~January is a fragrent month~ ♥~
~♥~It brings us all "Forget me nots"~ ♥~
~♥~To let us know our Angels are~♥~
~♥~Are always by our sides xxxx~ ♥~
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~♥~ FORGET YOU NEVER ~♥~

Edwina Dean

3 weeks ago

Merry Xmas Angel xxxx

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Lorraine Barnett (GTS Friend)

December 24, 2011

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Thinking of you at Christmastime
You're in my thoughts today
You've only gone to Heaven
To watch over us each day.
Today we'll spend together
just like we always do
I'm sending Christmas Wishes
with love
from me to you.

Christmas blessings
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Sylvie Belanger

December 23, 2011

~ GOODNIGHT GODBLESS ANGEL ~
`♥ Christmas Without You`♥


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Christmas without you here with me,
can never possibly be the same.
But I carry an Angel within my heart;
one so precious, who has your name.

An Angel forever watching over me,
at Christmas time, and over the year.
Although you can't be here anymore,
inside my heart, you are so very near.

There is no special present for you,
wrapped up under my Christmas tree.
But I have a greater gift to give to you;
all the love you can still feel from me.

No, Christmas time without you here,
could not ever possibly be the same.
But, I have had the precious gift of you,
and the memories and love, will remain.

๏ฟฝ Pamela Hall
All my love Sylvie

Sylvie Belanger

December 23, 2011

XXX BUTTERFLY HUGS XXX

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A rush of wings
they flutter high
to touch the sun
and kiss the sky
A butterfly
is with us now
No more a caterpillar
upon a leaf
with angel wings
A soaring butterfly
with us they sing

by
Lili Pintea-Reed copyright 2002

Edwina Dean

December 19, 2011

โ‹ฑ โ‹ฎ โ‹ฐA Christmas Wishโ‹ฑ โ‹ฎ โ‹ฐ

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Christmas tree's begin appearing
Cards will follow on
trimmings all around us
and we begin to have Christmas Fun
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greetings are being sent to us
but for some its just to hard
as simple as it sounds
they cant even send a card
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A time for celebrating
to send a Christmas Cheer
but for some its time for wishing
Their Loved ones could just be near
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..โœท


By Lisa Heritage

Little Children

December 17, 2011

แƒฆ♥แƒฆ Happy Heavenly Birthday แƒฆ♥แƒฆ

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Happy Birthday Olivia xxxxx

Lorraine Barnett (GTS Friend)

December 17, 2011

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Maxine Brown

December 10, 2011

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Edwina Dean

December 9, 2011
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